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Why is anger important?

Anger gets a bad rep. But anger is a normal, healthy emotion in a vast array of emotions (we all have). 

That’s not to say it’s always comfortable. But a lot of the discomfort we feel towards anger is because we haven’t been taught what to do with it. It’s seen as an “ugly” emotion – something we need to get rid of or suppress. 

But anger in itself is not bad – it’s a normal, healthy response to feeling wronged in some way. It only becomes bad when we harmfully impose our anger onto others.

When anger isn’t validated, it doesn’t just disappear. It festers. Very often our anger is alerting us to something that needs to be changed. 

Learning how to express our emotions in a healthy way can help us release them. The word emotion itself comes from the Latin “emotere”, literally meaning “energy in motion”. 

Emotions need to be felt and experienced – given the space to move, and eventually pass through. Of course, that’s not to say we should be going around venting our anger and frustrations onto everyone we meet…. But stuffing our anger down comes at a cost – to both ourselves and others. 

Learning how to sit and “be” with our anger can guide us towards living a life that is in line with our values.

Below we’ve listed some of anger’s valuable qualities:

Anger is there to protect us 

Anger is one of our most primitive emotions, and it is there to protect us. Anger can trigger the body’s fight or flight response, helping us to fight or flee from danger. It alerts us that something’s “up”. Anger isn’t the “bad guy” – it’s simply looking out for us.

Anger teaches us where our boundaries are

When something angers you, look inward for the underlying cause. Are you being threatened? Is something you love and care for being threatened? Are your boundaries being violated? Anger can be used as a powerful indicator for where our boundaries are, motivating us to look out for ourselves – and the people we care about – more effectively.

It indicates that something wrong has been done to us – or to someone we love. It indicates that changes need to be made. Of course, that doesn’t mean acting aggressively but it’s an instigator for growth.

Anger enables us to get our needs met

Anger can alert us to injustice, and to reach out and strive for what we deserve. It can inspire us to take up our rightful place in the world.

Anger can motivate us to enact positive change

Whilst some of the more joyful emotions tend to guide us towards the positive, anger can guide us away from the negative – which is just as important. Anger has the power to move us away from dangerous or destructive people, places or even systems or beliefs.

Humans are emotional beings. To deny that is to deny what it is to be human – and it only causes us more harm than good. Instead of suppressing anger, try mindfully leaning in to it – see what it has to say, and use it for positive change.

 

Dr Elena Touroni

Dr Elena Touroni

8 June 2020

"Dr. Elena Touroni is a skilled and experienced Consultant Psychologist with a track record of delivering high-quality services for individuals with all common emotional difficulties and those with a diagnosis of personality disorder. She is experienced in service design and delivery, the management of multi-disciplinary teams, organisational consultancy, and development and delivery of both national and bespoke training to providers in the statutory and non-statutory sector."

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Athena Lazaridou

Athena is a Pilates instructor with 8 years’ experience in the field. After completing a Power Pilates Mat Certification in Athens, she went on to complete the Full Comprehensive Classical Pilates Certification with Equinox in Kensington.  She has been teaching Pilates at Equinox for the past 6 years in addition to her own private clients who she trains both face to face and virtually.

Athena has a passion for helping people get stronger and fitter as well as helping those recovering from injury regain their strength and mobility.  Over the years, she has worked with athletes to incorporate Pilates into their training and improve performance. Athena has also worked with prenatal and postnatal women who may be experiencing depression or other mental health difficulties and used Pilates to facilitate a positive impact on their mental health.

Athena is very passionate about improving physical and mental well-being and has recently incorporated Sound Healing into her work, as she believes it to be one of the best ways of ‘letting go’ and releasing stale energy whilst increasing greater self-awareness.