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Understanding and breaking out of the self-harm cycle

Breaking out of the self-harm cycle

From our experience with self-harm over many years, we understand it as being a coping strategy that develops when people experience difficulties in managing their emotions. People who self-harm often experience more intense emotions than others and usually haven’t learnt the skills of how to deal with those emotions.

While on the surface, some people may see self-harm as a cry for help or attention, we have found that it is seen as a coping strategy or solution from the point of view of the sufferer. In fact, because self-harm releases endorphins, it can even become addictive. We’ve also found that when adolescents use self-harm as a coping strategy, they receive the additional pay-off of feeling triumphant – that they’re so tough they can conquer great physical pain.

In the following article, we’re going to take you through our Chain Analysis Process, which helps us map out the situation at hand and how to resolve it.

Chain Analysis Process

When helping a person who engaged in self-harm, we always map out the cycle they are in. Very often, these people experience vulnerabilities that trigger certain emotions. In trying to resolve their problem, they get stuck in a cycle of being triggered by their vulnerabilities.

  • Are there any vulnerability factors?
  • What are the triggers that might lead someone to self-harm?
  • What are the feelings this person has in the moment?
  • What problem is this person trying to solve?

After we’ve mapped out answers to the questions above, we then look at what other skills or coping strategies can provide the same positive release that comes from self-harm, so the person can let go of the self-harm coping mechanism altogether.

We teach people the following skills that place them in a new cycle of self-learning and self-growth:

  • distress tolerance skills
  • emotional regulation skills
  • mindfulness skills
  • relationship building skills
  • self-soothing skills



If you, or anyone you know, are suffering from self-harm and require support for the improvement of your mental health, then please do contact us for a confidential chat.

Dr Elena Touroni

Dr Elena Touroni

19 July 2018

"Dr. Elena Touroni is a skilled and experienced Consultant Psychologist with a track record of delivering high-quality services for individuals with all common emotional difficulties and those with a diagnosis of personality disorder. She is experienced in service design and delivery, the management of multi-disciplinary teams, organisational consultancy, and development and delivery of both national and bespoke training to providers in the statutory and non-statutory sector."

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Athena Lazaridou

Athena is a Pilates instructor with 8 years’ experience in the field. After completing a Power Pilates Mat Certification in Athens, she went on to complete the Full Comprehensive Classical Pilates Certification with Equinox in Kensington.  She has been teaching Pilates at Equinox for the past 6 years in addition to her own private clients who she trains both face to face and virtually.

Athena has a passion for helping people get stronger and fitter as well as helping those recovering from injury regain their strength and mobility.  Over the years, she has worked with athletes to incorporate Pilates into their training and improve performance. Athena has also worked with prenatal and postnatal women who may be experiencing depression or other mental health difficulties and used Pilates to facilitate a positive impact on their mental health.

Athena is very passionate about improving physical and mental well-being and has recently incorporated Sound Healing into her work, as she believes it to be one of the best ways of ‘letting go’ and releasing stale energy whilst increasing greater self-awareness.